When someone disappoints us it kind of feels like you’re standing still and not sure what to do. Anger, fear and sadness mix together. Questions start popping up all over the place. “What did I do?” “Was this my fault?” “Am I not good enough?” “Do I tell the person how I really feel?” “Should I never talk to them again?”
It is very easy to slip into the role of victim here and point your finger at them in judgment. So let that be our first example of a route you could go down. It wouldn’t be that difficult to talk about them behind their back, stew in private and write them off.
I personally believe this would catch up to you. I am the person who believes, “treat others the way you would want to be treated” – I’m extremely patient – and arguably too forgiving (if that is possible). […]
At least a few major times in everyone’s lives, disappointment creeps in. We have great news, hit an accomplishment, got a good result and can’t wait to share the details – always first with the person we think will be most excited or proud of us.
That person, at that one point in time, for whatever reason, ends up disappointing you. They don’t fully listen; they say “good job” but then follow immediately with something negative or pessimistic; they just don’t show up the way you hoped they would.
Immediately your bright and energetic excitement turns into a dull cloudy hurt. It has happened. It will continue to happen. Most importantly, we can try to get new perspective on the situation so the low’s aren’t quite so low.
One reason people can’t fully engage in your excitement is because they are not feeling excited in their own lives. Consider all of the stress […]