Topic: Growing Through Hard Times

Will I Ever Be Happy?

Will I Ever Be Happy?

Yesterday I was holding a coaching call with an amazing client. The purpose of the call was to strategize on how to build her business online, but somewhere, the conversation took a turn.

At one point in our call, she expressed a fear that she might never be happy all because someone she looked up to told her so years ago. That stuck with me and I decided to make a Facebook post to inquire what advice our followers would give this woman.

The response was amazing and full of fantastic insight. Today, I am pasting all of their responses for you to learn from:

she can always choose to go back to that moment and re-play those words to: ‘I will always be happy, it is my choice’, she can then practice that as a daily affirmation… when you believe you have the choice (really believe it at your core) […]

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The Danger of Keeping a Secret that You Feel You Should Tell Someone About

The Danger of Keeping a Secret that You Feel You Should Tell Someone About

When I was 16 I sat in a red convertible on Valentine’s Day with my friend. We were waiting for our boyfriends to come to the parking lot and meet us where we would then drive to a nice Italian restaurant for dinner.

I think about this moment in time regularly. If the boys had come down just minutes earlier maybe I could have missed her secret altogether. We all would have been better off I think.

Instead, I was alone with her. The moment was very real – and scary. She told me she had slept with my other friend’s long-time boyfriend and loved him. Once she was done with her confession, which she seemed oddly quite proud of, she looked at me with such intensity that the rest of the world was blocked out for a moment. She told me to take her secret to the grave and never tell […]

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Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Do you get anxiety when you think about starting high school? The new faces, the new classes, the new environment?

My neighbor’s daughter is starting high school in the Fall. She shyly told me she was nervous. Boy did that bring me back…

I remember graduating from middle school happy as a clam. I had hit a real milestone in my life and felt proud. Yet, entering high school gave me the opposite feeling. I had sweaty palms, anxiety, fear – all of it.

I was going from a class size of 35 to a class of more than 350! It was a transition from a private school to a public school and I had no way to prepare for what happened.

The first day of school was exactly what you’d expect.

In fact, I have recurring dreams about it to this day! lol. It’s me always late to a class because I can’t find […]

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Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Do you look in the mirror and have thoughts about how your hips are too big, your acne is ugly, your hair isn’t perfect, your stomach isn’t flat enough, your _________? Or do you feel not good enough to have a relationship with your crush, not good enough to achieve good grades, not good enough to _________?

Women especially have a hard time accepting themselves. When I was 22 I was given the greatest gift. I was made aware that my whole life I had been replaying this message in my mind and heart that I am not good enough. I could see so clearly how this negatively affected my relationships, school work, career, friendships and more.

ANY time you are being critical of yourself, you are reducing your chance for a happy, successful, fulfilling life. If you believe in yourself, others will believe in you. If you don’t like who you […]

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The Grass is Not Greener on the Other Side

The Grass is Not Greener on the Other Side

Have you ever looked at someone you admire and think about how easy they must have it or how much you wish you could experience what they experience?

“The Grass is Greener on the Other Side” concept has been around for a long time and expresses our lack of personal fulfillment and distraction in always looking at what others have, thinking it must be easier or better. That couldn’t be more false.

The beautiful, smart, perfectly capable young girl looks at the popular crowd and feels “not good enough.” New business owners always look at established business owners and dream of what it must be like to have fame and plenty of money or clients.

The madness has to stop. I’ve met many “established business owners” who “appear” to have a good income, but are truly just getting by. I was in the popular crowd for a short while and they were largely […]

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Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice when we are “up” and be proud of our accomplishments. I do not mean to start a post in such a downer way – but I do intend to finish it with positivity and motivation.

You see, lately I’ve been approached by more than a few struggling souls. They’ve […]

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3 Steps You Can Take Today for Self Improvement

3 Steps You Can Take Today for Self Improvement

In a recent article I offered a self improvement exercise to help you identify who you are now, compared to who you want to be. I acted out the exercise myself and experienced a little fear, some excitement and I was a little overwhelmed at times too. Any time we sit down to really expose our true feelings it’s normal to go through a range of emotions. But also, when we are finally true to ourselves, the world opens up and opportunities arise to get us closer to our goals.

I’d like to share with you a few items that I wrote down on my lists. Under the column of “Who I am” I listed the good and the ugly: Hard worker, people pleaser, responsible, frustrated, aware, stress-prone, thoughtful, etc. Under the column “Who I want to be” I listed: Healthy, help more people make positive decisions, exercise more […]

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Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

I have done a LOT of soul work ever since I was a little girl. As dorky as it may sound, I have actually broken my 28-year old life into two stages, and I even have titles for them! The first stage was my teenage depression years titled, “From Lost to Found” and since then I have been in “No Guts No Glory” mode.

In between these two stages rests one of the most important moments of my whole life. A special pocket of time where it felt like time was slowing down; my heart and mind and soul were wide open to receiving ‘the message.’ I was at an Anthony Robbins event and eighty to a hundred people surrounded me, chanting, screaming, jumping up and down all in support of me breaking this one-inch board with my bare hand. I was one of the last and my hand was pulsing […]

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Catapult Your Personal and Business Success! Here’s How…

Catapult Your Personal and Business Success! Here’s How…

Though I’m only a budding 28 year old, I realized a breakthrough mentality in my life and just had to share it with you!

If you’re a regular reader, by now you’ve heard my story of being a completely lost and depressed teen. You know the type that ate lunches along, cried most nights in bed and felt largely friendless? I had NO CLUE why these feelings of confusion and depression overcame me, or how long they would take up residence in my life, but they sure ate away at me.

From there, with a whole lotta faith and perseverance, I discovered the tools of business success in my tool box. I was 19 and attending college when I started working with a huge national marketing company. Life started to return. The recognition and achievements at my work was all I needed to start to turn my life around. Being lonely and […]

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How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times”.

 

Have you experienced a shift lately? Where you feel anxiety, a little lost, and mostly frustrated? If you have, today’s post is to tell you you’re not alone. I have clients and mentors all feeling like they are hanging on by a thread. At times, I’ve even used the analogy that it feels I’m being tossed under the ocean by a wave. At moments throughout each day I get to swim to the top and take a big breath, but then I’m smacked by another wave. It’s not to say I’ve been unhappy – not at all! […]

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