You already know exactly what I’m talking about. I don’t have to tell you what “confrontation” means.
I’ll start by admitting to you all that I think confrontation is one of the most difficult things to do, for me. It would be so easy for some people to shove the past under the rug, move on, write it off – but not for me. Some say we have a “contract” with ourselves before we come to live on this planet. A contract we must fulfill or we come back and do it again until we get it right. I don’t think I believe in all that, but if it is true, then my biggest feat is to stand up for myself, confront my fears and stand in alignment. Strong, honest, pure.
When I have to confront something (usually a someONE), my body has this awful reaction that I’d give anything to turn […]
Yesterday I was holding a coaching call with an amazing client. The purpose of the call was to strategize on how to build her business online, but somewhere, the conversation took a turn.
At one point in our call, she expressed a fear that she might never be happy all because someone she looked up to told her so years ago. That stuck with me and I decided to make a Facebook post to inquire what advice our followers would give this woman.
The response was amazing and full of fantastic insight. Today, I am pasting all of their responses for you to learn from:
she can always choose to go back to that moment and re-play those words to: ‘I will always be happy, it is my choice’, she can then practice that as a daily affirmation… when you believe you have the choice (really believe it at your core) […]
When someone disappoints us it kind of feels like you’re standing still and not sure what to do. Anger, fear and sadness mix together. Questions start popping up all over the place. “What did I do?” “Was this my fault?” “Am I not good enough?” “Do I tell the person how I really feel?” “Should I never talk to them again?”
It is very easy to slip into the role of victim here and point your finger at them in judgment. So let that be our first example of a route you could go down. It wouldn’t be that difficult to talk about them behind their back, stew in private and write them off.
I personally believe this would catch up to you. I am the person who believes, “treat others the way you would want to be treated” – I’m extremely patient – and arguably too forgiving (if that is possible). […]
Though I’m only a budding 28 year old, I realized a breakthrough mentality in my life and just had to share it with you!
If you’re a regular reader, by now you’ve heard my story of being a completely lost and depressed teen. You know the type that ate lunches along, cried most nights in bed and felt largely friendless? I had NO CLUE why these feelings of confusion and depression overcame me, or how long they would take up residence in my life, but they sure ate away at me.
From there, with a whole lotta faith and perseverance, I discovered the tools of business success in my tool box. I was 19 and attending college when I started working with a huge national marketing company. Life started to return. The recognition and achievements at my work was all I needed to start to turn my life around. Being lonely and […]
Today, I invite you to take a deep breath and search inside for the insecurities and disappointments you struggle with. What do you see? If you feel overweight, that may bring up feelings of embarrassment, wonder of how you got here, maybe even feelings of disgust. If you just went through a breakup, career change or move, you may be feeling deep loss, completely alone and while people close say they understand, you feel they don’t. Maybe plain and simply you just don’t feel good enough.
I invite you now to take another deep breath and release a little bit of those feelings as you exhale. I’m not even asking for a complete release; just enough to give yourself the break you need.
I know what it’s like to feel so lonely and lost that you don’t know what to do. Sure, you put a smile on your face when in public, […]
Facebook has really evolved into something great for me over the years. I remember way back in the day when Facebook was only for college students and just starting to gain popularity. Now, years later, it has become an important interface for millions. There are still those out there than “don’t get it” and that’s ok. It’s not for everyone. But, I’ve discovered that Facebook has an awesome power to heal past hurts.
Every person has that one memory of a B.F.F. that said something hurtful which resulted in the two going separate ways, or past relationships ending in a confusing way, or … fill in the blank. I was just talking to a friend a few Friday’s ago. She spoke of her best friend and how they were sooo close. Until, my friend made a single decision. The decision caused an enormous misunderstanding, the two had a blow out fight, […]
We have all been a part of a situation in the past that to this day, makes us sad or empty inside. Someone said unspeakable things to you, a relationship ended in cheating and lying, a friend/coworker/boss didn’t understand boundaries. And when these events occur, we take blame – even if it was 110% NOT our fault. The memory comes up time and time again. You say you’re over it and you don’t care, but you do.
If this is sounding familiar, you have a hole in your past that must be filled. That hole eats away at us and we find ways to relate it to present and future instances too. Then, it will come the time to forgive… and that hole starts to be filled. All of a sudden, you’ll find yourself remembering it less and less, it won’t have that hold on you anymore, and it becomes just […]