Topic: Creating Healthy Relationships

Will I Ever Be Happy?

Will I Ever Be Happy?

Yesterday I was holding a coaching call with an amazing client. The purpose of the call was to strategize on how to build her business online, but somewhere, the conversation took a turn.

At one point in our call, she expressed a fear that she might never be happy all because someone she looked up to told her so years ago. That stuck with me and I decided to make a Facebook post to inquire what advice our followers would give this woman.

The response was amazing and full of fantastic insight. Today, I am pasting all of their responses for you to learn from:

she can always choose to go back to that moment and re-play those words to: ‘I will always be happy, it is my choice’, she can then practice that as a daily affirmation… when you believe you have the choice (really believe it at your core) […]

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The Danger of Keeping a Secret that You Feel You Should Tell Someone About

The Danger of Keeping a Secret that You Feel You Should Tell Someone About

When I was 16 I sat in a red convertible on Valentine’s Day with my friend. We were waiting for our boyfriends to come to the parking lot and meet us where we would then drive to a nice Italian restaurant for dinner.

I think about this moment in time regularly. If the boys had come down just minutes earlier maybe I could have missed her secret altogether. We all would have been better off I think.

Instead, I was alone with her. The moment was very real – and scary. She told me she had slept with my other friend’s long-time boyfriend and loved him. Once she was done with her confession, which she seemed oddly quite proud of, she looked at me with such intensity that the rest of the world was blocked out for a moment. She told me to take her secret to the grave and never tell […]

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Catapult Your Personal and Business Success! Here’s How…

Catapult Your Personal and Business Success! Here’s How…

Though I’m only a budding 28 year old, I realized a breakthrough mentality in my life and just had to share it with you!

If you’re a regular reader, by now you’ve heard my story of being a completely lost and depressed teen. You know the type that ate lunches along, cried most nights in bed and felt largely friendless? I had NO CLUE why these feelings of confusion and depression overcame me, or how long they would take up residence in my life, but they sure ate away at me.

From there, with a whole lotta faith and perseverance, I discovered the tools of business success in my tool box. I was 19 and attending college when I started working with a huge national marketing company. Life started to return. The recognition and achievements at my work was all I needed to start to turn my life around. Being lonely and […]

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Is Your Thinking Aligned with the Majority or the Minority?

Is Your Thinking Aligned with the Majority or the Minority?

A new Conscious Divas post!

I heard a study that only 9% of people polled in the US are earning the same amount or more income that the previous year – everyone else was making less or jobless. This is very concerning to me and makes me question what people are thinking and feeling. I wake up and see the latest news announcements about how the world is in a very delicate economic state and how we might be headed for a major hit. Company stocks are plummeting which gives us FEAR, families are living on a shoestring budget and feeling STRESS, and relationships are experiencing TENSION due to all the pressures we face.

Yep, this is the way I see the majority thinking and it makes me want to put on my Super Woman cape on and save the world.

 

I have […]

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How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times”.

 

Have you experienced a shift lately? Where you feel anxiety, a little lost, and mostly frustrated? If you have, today’s post is to tell you you’re not alone. I have clients and mentors all feeling like they are hanging on by a thread. At times, I’ve even used the analogy that it feels I’m being tossed under the ocean by a wave. At moments throughout each day I get to swim to the top and take a big breath, but then I’m smacked by another wave. It’s not to say I’ve been unhappy – not at all! […]

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How to Be There for Your Teen While Also Giving Space

How to Be There for Your Teen While Also Giving Space

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Be There for Your Teen While Also Giving Space”.

You may or may not know by now that I hold a strong passion for opening communication between teens and parents. Wow oh wow did I push and pull my parents in every possible direction as a teen. “I need you” … “No, get away” … it must have been so incredibly confusing for them! But I couldn’t help it, I was an emotional roller coaster.

I was confused to the max about the pressures I felt surrounding me. Who did I want to be? How did I want to show up in the world? I constantly analyzed how others showed up and compared […]

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The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

Today’s post is from ‘anonymous’ who wrote this for their relationship partner. I decided to add this in for two reasons. One, it’s important that we take time out of our busy schedules to think about why we care about the people we surround ourselves with. Two, because it’s equally important that we take time to express our feelings to others – whether family, friends or relationship partners. It can really strengthen a relationship and remind both parties why this relationship is so important. I would love to hear your thoughts after reading…

The 21 reasons why I love you and ‘just know’…

I love you because you take the time to really understand who I am.
Because I feel safer knowing you’re in my life.
Because you always show up when I need you most.

I love you because you never cease to make me smile or laugh.
Because you find ways to […]

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What Has to Be In Place to Attract Your “Other”?

What Has to Be In Place to Attract Your “Other”?

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “What Has to Be In Place to Attract Your “Other”?”

“Starting at very early ages we all become elated at the idea that our soul mate or significant other is out there somewhere – we just have to find him/her. Attending weddings, watching romantic movies and hearing stories of how lovers met… it all solidifies this feeling inside of us – our desire to meet our match.

The process isn’t an easy one as you probably know by now. We have such high hopes starting with our early-year relationships. The more experience we have – the more relationship partners – the more complex it all becomes. I know plenty of people that have baggage from […]

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What Keeps Us Going Through Rock-Bottom Times?

What Keeps Us Going Through Rock-Bottom Times?

Today’s post is directed at all you busy-bees out there who are working hard to get ahead, or be noticed, or fulfill your newly set 2011 goals. I’m such such a busy bee and always have been. Ok, well, I guess I’ll rephrase and say I have been for the past 10 years. I wanted to create a space for you to slow down and remember what’s most important…

I’ll start by reminding you that I’ve been challenged and I’ve been tested to the max – a few times. I remember once in my life, laying in a park when it was pitch-black outside… staring up at the stars, crying thinking “this is rock bottom”. I remember sitting in front of my doctor after weeks of testing for her to hint that I may or may not have cancer, we needed to do one more test, and I’d know in 45 […]

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What Are Your Defense Mechanisms?

What Are Your Defense Mechanisms?

Defense mechanism behaviors that have worked for you in the past
may not fit you anymore and need to change.

We all have defense mechanisms that we’ve developed over time, often without being aware of it. In times of trouble, the behaviors that have worked to get us past challenges with the least amount of pain are the ones that we repeat; even when part of us knows they no longer work. Such behavior is a natural response from our mental and physical aspects. But because we are spiritual beings as well, we have the ability to rise above habits and patterns to see the truth that lay beyond. And from that moment on, we can make choices that allow us to work directly from that place of truth within us.

Most of our defense mechanisms were developed in childhood; from the moment that we realized crying would get us the attention […]

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