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A Must-Read Blog Series by Paul Hendricks

A Must-Read Blog Series by Paul Hendricks

This isn’t a cop-out on writing, but rather a very valuable tip to help you along your Journey. Many of you remember Paul Hendricks from the story he shared titled, “Best-Selling Author Paul Hendricks’ Story of Self-Destruction: From Lost to Found“. It is still one of the most top-read pages on this website and deserves that popularity!

You also probably know by now that Paul and I really boost each other up. We have grown to really respect what each other does for their communities. His beautiful wife Diane is just as amazing too! It makes me want to move to Hawaii just to soak them up.

Paul has his own blog and just started a series titled “BE-ing ALOHA is the Fastest Way to Manifest Your Dreams!” The first post was Tuesday, the second was Wednesday. AMAZING.

Check out this excerpt:

“Over the next few days, I am going to share […]

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New Conscious Divas Post: How to Start 2011 With a Clear Conscience and a Bang!

New Conscious Divas Post: How to Start 2011 With a Clear Conscience and a Bang!

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Start 2011 With a Clear Conscience and a Bang!”

“I love December as it is a month for serious reflection. January is great for inspiration and kicking ourselves into high gear. Somewhere in the middle of this spectrum we need to find a quiet space to clear our conscience and determine what we really want for the new year ahead. Today I hope to provide some guidance on how to do just that.

This process really must start with serious reflection if you have not already done so. I like to walk around the mall or crowded areas and get very still in my mind. I look around at the mom’s pushing their […]

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Time to Grow Again: The Messengers, How I Take Advice from Others and Coming Out OK On the Other Side

Time to Grow Again: The Messengers, How I Take Advice from Others and Coming Out OK On the Other Side

With the ebb and flow of life comes periods of time where we are in deep conflict; when two long roads are in front of us and we are desperate to figure out which one we should choose. It is natural to turn to our closest friends and family – always the ones who will judge us least and who usually offer sound advice. I have been at such a place many times in my life and I expect to be there many, many more times ahead.

Over the past ten years, I believe I have figured out a pretty solid plan when stuck and seeking answers. Today I wanted to share some of the strategies I implement when facing the “abyss”.

The first thing I’ll usually do is get out of my own way as much as possible. When the first signs of stirring come up inside me – the days […]

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Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Do you get anxiety when you think about starting high school? The new faces, the new classes, the new environment?

My neighbor’s daughter is starting high school in the Fall. She shyly told me she was nervous. Boy did that bring me back…

I remember graduating from middle school happy as a clam. I had hit a real milestone in my life and felt proud. Yet, entering high school gave me the opposite feeling. I had sweaty palms, anxiety, fear – all of it.

I was going from a class size of 35 to a class of more than 350! It was a transition from a private school to a public school and I had no way to prepare for what happened.

The first day of school was exactly what you’d expect.

In fact, I have recurring dreams about it to this day! lol. It’s me always late to a class because I can’t find […]

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The Gift of Forgiveness and the Power to Move On From Past Hurts

The Gift of Forgiveness and the Power to Move On From Past Hurts

We have all been a part of a situation in the past that to this day, makes us sad or empty inside. Someone said unspeakable things to you, a relationship ended in cheating and lying, a friend/coworker/boss didn’t understand boundaries. And when these events occur, we take blame – even if it was 110% NOT our fault. The memory comes up time and time again. You say you’re over it and you don’t care, but you do.

If this is sounding familiar, you have a hole in your past that must be filled. That hole eats away at us and we find ways to relate it to present and future instances too. Then, it will come the time to forgive… and that hole starts to be filled. All of a sudden, you’ll find yourself remembering it less and less, it won’t have that hold on you anymore, and it becomes just […]

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Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice when we are “up” and be proud of our accomplishments. I do not mean to start a post in such a downer way – but I do intend to finish it with positivity and motivation.

You see, lately I’ve been approached by more than a few struggling souls. They’ve […]

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Part 1 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

Part 1 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

In the next 4 posts I am going to share with you 4 key lessons I learned to help me grow into the person I am today…

One, I listened to my Gut.

I’ve learned that if I trust my head and thoughts, I’ll not arrive at the destination I want. Your mind plagues you with “What If” questions. What if they don’t like me, what if I fail, what if they say no… what if I make the wrong decision. You can’t really trust too many mind-based solutions because you are merely guessing your way through the decision.

I’ve also learned that if I trust my heart only, I’ll still not arrive at the destination I want. Your heart is full to the brim with emotion and sensitivity – whether you realize it’s potential or not. Emotion will lead you astray because we all want to feel loved and good […]

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Your Call To Action: Help Me Influence Teens in a Positive Way

Your Call To Action: Help Me Influence Teens in a Positive Way

Thank YOU for all of your comments and feedback on this site so far! There are few things more rewarding in this world than showing up just as you were meant to, spreading messages to others who search for answers. This is exactly the purpose of this site. It is my ultimate hope we can make this a community site – an interactive site. We have an opportunity to truly create something special. AND, I ultimately want to bring Teenagers into this space. There is so much we can do to influence them in a positive way. Won’t you help me?

Ways you can help – your call to action:

Share Your Story: Whatever you feel to share about your past, present, or future desires. Stories are the easiest ways to teach and relate to one another. You can Share Your Story by clicking here now »
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Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

The following was a piece I wrote at age 22, looking back on all the dark moments of my teenage life. Wishing for happiness and to just be ‘normal’ again…

I have paused, feeling rage, during many vulnerable times throughout my journey and thought, “I don’t want to grow anymore! I don’t want to learn. I just want to be at peace, and live my life.” In some moments of despair we question if we are even strong enough to survive our current tragedies. Every time I thought I was at a dead end in my life, unable to grasp onto any part of my True Self that would help me gain sanity, I would find a small break. A break that would give me the faith and courage necessary to keep moving and find the greater Truth of why life is the way it is, […]

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What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

I’ve been awake about an hour and I’m already filled with an unmatched happiness and peace. I couldn’t do another thing until I told you what I was feeling. The past five days have completely blown me away…

To get started, I must tell you about my pre-Thanksgiving travel experience. A few weeks ago I bought my plane tickets home to Tucson, leaving Wednesday (the 24th) at 9pm and coming back Saturday. I originally got the late Wednesday flight because my aunt was coming in to town and I was going to spend the day with her and my cousin. She got caught in a nasty Utah snow storm and I found out the day before my flight she was not going to be able to travel here – the freeways would shut down.

This opened up the opportunity for me to come home a little early which I desperately craved. […]

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