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What Are Your Defense Mechanisms?

What Are Your Defense Mechanisms?

Defense mechanism behaviors that have worked for you in the past
may not fit you anymore and need to change.

We all have defense mechanisms that we’ve developed over time, often without being aware of it. In times of trouble, the behaviors that have worked to get us past challenges with the least amount of pain are the ones that we repeat; even when part of us knows they no longer work. Such behavior is a natural response from our mental and physical aspects. But because we are spiritual beings as well, we have the ability to rise above habits and patterns to see the truth that lay beyond. And from that moment on, we can make choices that allow us to work directly from that place of truth within us.

Most of our defense mechanisms were developed in childhood; from the moment that we realized crying would get us the attention […]

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Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen) – Must Hear Advice From the 90’s

Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen) – Must Hear Advice From the 90’s

Today’s lesson comes to use from the 90’s by a man name Baz Luhrmann. I don’t even have much of an intro for this post, except I ask for your trust. Take 5 minutes for me and watch the music video below. Listen to the words, let them sink in deep down into your soul and see what comes out at the other end. Just trust me.

All I ask is at the end of this video, scroll to the bottom of the page and make a comment to tell me the key thing you got out of watching this video. Thank you in advance.

Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’97
Wear Sunscreen…

… If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my […]

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Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of a shame spiral searching Facebook on who you can chat with, scrolling your phone for that “right person” to call who will comfort you, yet no one seems to be that “right person”? You’re fidgety, frustrated and your whole body is tight. Then you tell yourself, “Well, I don’t NEED to talk about it, it would just be nice.”

If you are identifying with this, then let this be a message that cautions you. This process happens when something (or things) is brewing deep inside you. You are like a volcano about ready to blow. Tears emerge, but you are trying to be “strong” so maybe only one falls. You know you’re on dangerous grounds but you test it, tease it and think you can overcome this power brewing in you.

False. Sorry to break that thought – but deep down you already […]

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What Has to Be In Place to Attract Your “Other”?

What Has to Be In Place to Attract Your “Other”?

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “What Has to Be In Place to Attract Your “Other”?”

“Starting at very early ages we all become elated at the idea that our soul mate or significant other is out there somewhere – we just have to find him/her. Attending weddings, watching romantic movies and hearing stories of how lovers met… it all solidifies this feeling inside of us – our desire to meet our match.

The process isn’t an easy one as you probably know by now. We have such high hopes starting with our early-year relationships. The more experience we have – the more relationship partners – the more complex it all becomes. I know plenty of people that have baggage from […]

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Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice when we are “up” and be proud of our accomplishments. I do not mean to start a post in such a downer way – but I do intend to finish it with positivity and motivation.

You see, lately I’ve been approached by more than a few struggling souls. They’ve […]

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Q&A: Bad Relationships, Our Need to Feel Appreciated and How to Overcame Those Obstacles

Q&A: Bad Relationships, Our Need to Feel Appreciated and How to Overcame Those Obstacles

I received a question from a reader named Amanda. I wrote back a long response to her question but found her email address to not be a working address. So, I open this up to all of you in hopes that Amanda finds the answer she was looking for…

Amanda’s Question:
“I toppled across your website this afternoon and started reading your blogs; they are truly inspirational. I was curious.. in one of your blogs you talked about how sometimes our need to fill appreciated can keep us in bad relationships far too long. I wanted to see if you had a blog talking about your bad relationships and how you overcame those obstacles. Thanks!”

My Response:
Good morning Amanda! Thank you for the kind words – this is why I keep going and do what I do. I always said if it impacted even one person – it was all worth it. 🙂

I […]

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An AMAZING Blog I Stumbled Across

An AMAZING Blog I Stumbled Across

I am constantly looking for others that share in my passion to help others by sharing their wisdom and their life experiences. I have a few I’ll be sharing with you over the next few months. This blog in particular is new, but POWERFUL.

The domain says it all: FEELING THEN HEALING — http://feelingthenhealing.wordpress.com

Don’t we all go through this experience of FEELING then HEALING? When going through moments of heartache OR bliss – we MUST FEEL first. We soak in the most exhilarating times and the most hurtful times. Either way, whatever our experience, we take the feeling deep inside ourselves and lock it in. We can then draw upon this AMAZING force of emotion and past experience to help propel us into our best future.

This blog I found – about Standing in the FIRE Of Life – calls us out. Calls everyone of us out to be our […]

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Setting Goals to Improve Your Self-Confidence & Get More Out of Life

Setting Goals to Improve Your Self-Confidence & Get More Out of Life

No one is born knowing how to set goals or how to achieve the things they desire in life. Like with anything else, goal setting is an art that must be learned and mastered.

If you played sports at any point in your life, you have a great foundation for goal setting. You’ve learned how to be a team player, strategies to win the game and you experienced the celebration after the win. Some of you set goals to get an A on a test, or to get into a particular college, or to land your dream job – this is all great!

On the other hand, there are many people who have not been raised in that environment and as a result, don’t know or understand the power of goal setting. I am here to hopefully open your eyes about this concept – it can truly change your life in a […]

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The Million Dollar Secret to Overcoming Resistance

The Million Dollar Secret to Overcoming Resistance

Have you been feeling very… stop and go lately? You are feeling an all time high one moment – motivated, getting stuff done, jazzed about opportunity. The next (almost within an instant sometimes) you feel just the opposite – discouraged, feeling like a loser, unsure of yourself. There is a resistance that just won’t let you stay on that “high”.

Once the awareness comes in that maybe there is resistance, we ask ourselves why is it so hard to do the smallest of tasks? Where is that coming from? Am I sabotaging myself from reaching my goals and what I truly want out of life? What can I do to get rid of this blockage?

These are tough questions to ask oneself. To look inward and fight for your life essentially. I honor your strength to find the answers to these questions.

I encourage you to think […]

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