Blog - A Conscious Choice with Teen and Parent Mentor Amber Ludwig-Vilhauer

Breathe to Relieve Stress and Tension

Breathe to Relieve Stress and Tension

Today’s message is short and sweet: Never underestimate the power of breathing. For some reason this week has been a little hectic – meaning many people around me called in a panic over one issue or another. Major health scares, relationship worries, career changes, etc. A lot of people got freaked out – even if only for a short while.

When we freak out we get anxious, tight, scared. We get overwhelmed quickly because we are thinking about the “big picture” and not manageable pieces. We can even tell we are not thinking clearly and that stress is taking over completely. Yet, we don’t know how to stop that train.

Breathe. That’s all you really need to remember. If you feel yourself getting wound up, hopefully you can trigger the memory to just breathe. Getting that extra oxygen will be very good for your body. It will slow your heart rate and […]

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What Keeps Us Going Through Rock-Bottom Times?

What Keeps Us Going Through Rock-Bottom Times?

Today’s post is directed at all you busy-bees out there who are working hard to get ahead, or be noticed, or fulfill your newly set 2011 goals. I’m such such a busy bee and always have been. Ok, well, I guess I’ll rephrase and say I have been for the past 10 years. I wanted to create a space for you to slow down and remember what’s most important…

I’ll start by reminding you that I’ve been challenged and I’ve been tested to the max – a few times. I remember once in my life, laying in a park when it was pitch-black outside… staring up at the stars, crying thinking “this is rock bottom”. I remember sitting in front of my doctor after weeks of testing for her to hint that I may or may not have cancer, we needed to do one more test, and I’d know in 45 […]

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Snap Out of It! 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Snap Out of It! 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude”.

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice […]

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The Million Dollar Secret to Overcoming Resistance

The Million Dollar Secret to Overcoming Resistance

Have you been feeling very… stop and go lately? You are feeling an all time high one moment – motivated, getting stuff done, jazzed about opportunity. The next (almost within an instant sometimes) you feel just the opposite – discouraged, feeling like a loser, unsure of yourself. There is a resistance that just won’t let you stay on that “high”.

Once the awareness comes in that maybe there is resistance, we ask ourselves why is it so hard to do the smallest of tasks? Where is that coming from? Am I sabotaging myself from reaching my goals and what I truly want out of life? What can I do to get rid of this blockage?

These are tough questions to ask oneself. To look inward and fight for your life essentially. I honor your strength to find the answers to these questions.

I encourage you to think […]

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A Lesson From the Story of Chicken Little

A Lesson From the Story of Chicken Little

The Story of Chicken Little is a famous one indeed. This 1940’s Walt Disney clip, like most others, has quite an important lesson to share. Can you guess what it is by watching the video below?

We are all human and can be influenced by all sorts of things – people, books, movies, music, propaganda, stories, etc. Most humans are sensitive and want to belong or feel loved and accepted. Since you’re reading this post then I’ll take it one step further and say you want to grow, learn and gain insight to better yourself.

The Story of Chicken Little tells us to exercise caution when listening to others. The last line of the clip is, “Don’t believe everything you read brother!”

It is ok to seek answers. It is ok to trust. It is ok to get influenced.

What I like to do is be an open book. I like to […]

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Love Actually IS All Around

Love Actually IS All Around

In December we usually remember what’s most important in our lives. It’s not beating ourselves up over a missed deadline, it’s not feeling insecure time and time again, and it’s not punishing ourselves over a mistake. What’s important is family and love and giving back. The movie “Love Actually” is one I watch every holiday season. It starts off with a bunch of video clips of people reuniting and hugging at the airport. The voiceover is Hugh Grant saying,

“Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old […]

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Get Your Motivation Here: The Secret to You

Get Your Motivation Here: The Secret to You

Need a little motivation today?

We all wake up sometimes and just feel a little off. Maybe you try to do some soul-searching to see what the problem is, or maybe you shrug it off and try to ignore that quiet whispering. I do a little of both, but also try to read or watch something that will give me the confidence and motivation I need to have a kick-ass day.

Here is my secret to feeling empowered and ready to take the day on:

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What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

I’ve been awake about an hour and I’m already filled with an unmatched happiness and peace. I couldn’t do another thing until I told you what I was feeling. The past five days have completely blown me away…

To get started, I must tell you about my pre-Thanksgiving travel experience. A few weeks ago I bought my plane tickets home to Tucson, leaving Wednesday (the 24th) at 9pm and coming back Saturday. I originally got the late Wednesday flight because my aunt was coming in to town and I was going to spend the day with her and my cousin. She got caught in a nasty Utah snow storm and I found out the day before my flight she was not going to be able to travel here – the freeways would shut down.

This opened up the opportunity for me to come home a little early which I desperately craved. […]

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What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

When someone disappoints us it kind of feels like you’re standing still and not sure what to do. Anger, fear and sadness mix together. Questions start popping up all over the place. “What did I do?” “Was this my fault?” “Am I not good enough?” “Do I tell the person how I really feel?” “Should I never talk to them again?”

It is very easy to slip into the role of victim here and point your finger at them in judgment. So let that be our first example of a route you could go down. It wouldn’t be that difficult to talk about them behind their back, stew in private and write them off.

I personally believe this would catch up to you. I am the person who believes, “treat others the way you would want to be treated” – I’m extremely patient – and arguably too forgiving (if that is possible). […]

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Three Phases of Enlightenment to Reclaim Your Bright Future

Three Phases of Enlightenment to Reclaim Your Bright Future

Fear is a very common, recurring, natural emotion. If it never fully goes away, we need to learn to develop a relationship with that fear so it no longer controls us.

In order to get ourselves back on track we must step through three phases of enlightenment. The first is to reconnect with our Self by remembering our core values, strengths and goals. Only by doing this can we move into the second phase which is to see past our fears. When we finally make this shift, we will be able to look into our future once more with purpose and excitement. Our third phase is to take action. Once we take action we are reminded of our worth. It is when we feel worthy that the strongest forces in the world can no longer stop us.

What does it mean to reconnect with our Self? Because we all have different trials, […]

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