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What Keeps Us Going Through Rock-Bottom Times?

What Keeps Us Going Through Rock-Bottom Times?

Today’s post is directed at all you busy-bees out there who are working hard to get ahead, or be noticed, or fulfill your newly set 2011 goals. I’m such such a busy bee and always have been. Ok, well, I guess I’ll rephrase and say I have been for the past 10 years. I wanted to create a space for you to slow down and remember what’s most important…

I’ll start by reminding you that I’ve been challenged and I’ve been tested to the max – a few times. I remember once in my life, laying in a park when it was pitch-black outside… staring up at the stars, crying thinking “this is rock bottom”. I remember sitting in front of my doctor after weeks of testing for her to hint that I may or may not have cancer, we needed to do one more test, and I’d know in 45 […]

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What People Are Feeling Right Now

What People Are Feeling Right Now

The chatter around Facebook has taken a turn in the past week. MANY people are starting to write about change, lost of inspirational quotes and insights about life are swirling around. More comments are being made and it seems that people, now more than ever, are reaching out to their community for support.

You may not find this as fascinating as I do, but I’m sharing it anyway. 🙂 I do like to see what people are talking about on Facebook because it does often give me insights into how I am feeling. For example, last week I was feeling that there was SO much going on, LOTS of change, LOTS of emotion and turmoil. Turns out, EVERYONE was feeling that – ok, lots of people we’ll say. This made me feel that I wasn’t isolated and alone. I realized that many were at that breaking point. This week, people […]

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Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of a shame spiral searching Facebook on who you can chat with, scrolling your phone for that “right person” to call who will comfort you, yet no one seems to be that “right person”? You’re fidgety, frustrated and your whole body is tight. Then you tell yourself, “Well, I don’t NEED to talk about it, it would just be nice.”

If you are identifying with this, then let this be a message that cautions you. This process happens when something (or things) is brewing deep inside you. You are like a volcano about ready to blow. Tears emerge, but you are trying to be “strong” so maybe only one falls. You know you’re on dangerous grounds but you test it, tease it and think you can overcome this power brewing in you.

False. Sorry to break that thought – but deep down you already […]

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The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

Today’s post is from ‘anonymous’ who wrote this for their relationship partner. I decided to add this in for two reasons. One, it’s important that we take time out of our busy schedules to think about why we care about the people we surround ourselves with. Two, because it’s equally important that we take time to express our feelings to others – whether family, friends or relationship partners. It can really strengthen a relationship and remind both parties why this relationship is so important. I would love to hear your thoughts after reading…

The 21 reasons why I love you and ‘just know’…

I love you because you take the time to really understand who I am.
Because I feel safer knowing you’re in my life.
Because you always show up when I need you most.

I love you because you never cease to make me smile or laugh.
Because you find ways to […]

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No Guts No Glory: Understanding “The Shift” to Get You Where You Want to Go in Life

No Guts No Glory: Understanding “The Shift” to Get You Where You Want to Go in Life

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “No Guts No Glory: Understanding “The Shift” to Get You Where You Want to Go in Life”.

Even with eyes half-open people are noticing a shift has occurred on the planet. To use terminology from “The Secret”, your thoughts are manifesting like rapid-fire these days. Simultaneously, accountability is stronger than ever and people aren’t getting away with anything that is not of their highest and truest self. Have you noticed this??

I can’t say this is a new concept – many have been talking about this time coming. The “great divide” between the conscious and unconscious. Those that choose to be conscious or take the higher road are being rewarded like never before. I’ve noticed […]

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3 Steps You Can Take Today for Self Improvement

3 Steps You Can Take Today for Self Improvement

In a recent article I offered a self improvement exercise to help you identify who you are now, compared to who you want to be. I acted out the exercise myself and experienced a little fear, some excitement and I was a little overwhelmed at times too. Any time we sit down to really expose our true feelings it’s normal to go through a range of emotions. But also, when we are finally true to ourselves, the world opens up and opportunities arise to get us closer to our goals.

I’d like to share with you a few items that I wrote down on my lists. Under the column of “Who I am” I listed the good and the ugly: Hard worker, people pleaser, responsible, frustrated, aware, stress-prone, thoughtful, etc. Under the column “Who I want to be” I listed: Healthy, help more people make positive decisions, exercise more […]

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Snap Out of It! 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Snap Out of It! 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude”.

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice […]

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Breathe to Relieve Stress and Tension

Breathe to Relieve Stress and Tension

Today’s message is short and sweet: Never underestimate the power of breathing. For some reason this week has been a little hectic – meaning many people around me called in a panic over one issue or another. Major health scares, relationship worries, career changes, etc. A lot of people got freaked out – even if only for a short while.

When we freak out we get anxious, tight, scared. We get overwhelmed quickly because we are thinking about the “big picture” and not manageable pieces. We can even tell we are not thinking clearly and that stress is taking over completely. Yet, we don’t know how to stop that train.

Breathe. That’s all you really need to remember. If you feel yourself getting wound up, hopefully you can trigger the memory to just breathe. Getting that extra oxygen will be very good for your body. It will slow your heart rate and […]

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Part 4 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

Part 4 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

This is a continuation of the series on 4 key lessons I learned to help me grow into the person I am today…

The fourth lesson is I learn from everyone and everything.

Every second holds the opportunity to grow and become happier with who you are. If someone has experienced something similar to what I am going through at the time I listen intently and learn from their mistakes and their outcomes. That is why I continue to read or go to seminars, or talk to people openly about life.

I figure if I can at least learn one thing from each source it was worth my time and energy. I feel strongly that life will continue to present situations to you until you learn the lesson. Three years ago, I had taken on a LOT of responsibility. It felt like I was […]

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Get Your Motivation Here: The Secret to You

Get Your Motivation Here: The Secret to You

Need a little motivation today?

We all wake up sometimes and just feel a little off. Maybe you try to do some soul-searching to see what the problem is, or maybe you shrug it off and try to ignore that quiet whispering. I do a little of both, but also try to read or watch something that will give me the confidence and motivation I need to have a kick-ass day.

Here is my secret to feeling empowered and ready to take the day on:

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