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The Million Dollar Secret to Overcoming Resistance

The Million Dollar Secret to Overcoming Resistance

Have you been feeling very… stop and go lately? You are feeling an all time high one moment – motivated, getting stuff done, jazzed about opportunity. The next (almost within an instant sometimes) you feel just the opposite – discouraged, feeling like a loser, unsure of yourself. There is a resistance that just won’t let you stay on that “high”.

Once the awareness comes in that maybe there is resistance, we ask ourselves why is it so hard to do the smallest of tasks? Where is that coming from? Am I sabotaging myself from reaching my goals and what I truly want out of life? What can I do to get rid of this blockage?

These are tough questions to ask oneself. To look inward and fight for your life essentially. I honor your strength to find the answers to these questions.

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My Favorite Motivational Speeches from the Best Inspirational Movies

My Favorite Motivational Speeches from the Best Inspirational Movies

I love feel good movies that open my mind and give me new perspective. I’m always on the look out for movies that are true stories and have much wisdom buried in the writing. Below you’ll see some of my favorite inspirational movies and a short video clip from each. Maybe bookmark this post and watch any of these videos when you need a little push in the right direction one day.

I’d love to know what your favorite motivational speeches OR inspirational movies are. Send a comment at the bottom of this post if you have a good recommendation for me. 🙂

The Pursuit of Happyness

Rocky Balboa

The Blind Side

Peaceful Warrior

Bonus Video: Facing the Giants Wholeheartedly

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Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Do you get anxiety when you think about starting high school? The new faces, the new classes, the new environment?

My neighbor’s daughter is starting high school in the Fall. She shyly told me she was nervous. Boy did that bring me back…

I remember graduating from middle school happy as a clam. I had hit a real milestone in my life and felt proud. Yet, entering high school gave me the opposite feeling. I had sweaty palms, anxiety, fear – all of it.

I was going from a class size of 35 to a class of more than 350! It was a transition from a private school to a public school and I had no way to prepare for what happened.

The first day of school was exactly what you’d expect.

In fact, I have recurring dreams about it to this day! lol. It’s me always late to a class because I can’t find […]

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Setting Goals to Improve Your Self-Confidence & Get More Out of Life

Setting Goals to Improve Your Self-Confidence & Get More Out of Life

No one is born knowing how to set goals or how to achieve the things they desire in life. Like with anything else, goal setting is an art that must be learned and mastered.

If you played sports at any point in your life, you have a great foundation for goal setting. You’ve learned how to be a team player, strategies to win the game and you experienced the celebration after the win. Some of you set goals to get an A on a test, or to get into a particular college, or to land your dream job – this is all great!

On the other hand, there are many people who have not been raised in that environment and as a result, don’t know or understand the power of goal setting. I am here to hopefully open your eyes about this concept – it can truly change your life in a […]

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The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

You already know exactly what I’m talking about. I don’t have to tell you what “confrontation” means.

I’ll start by admitting to you all that I think confrontation is one of the most difficult things to do, for me. It would be so easy for some people to shove the past under the rug, move on, write it off – but not for me. Some say we have a “contract” with ourselves before we come to live on this planet. A contract we must fulfill or we come back and do it again until we get it right. I don’t think I believe in all that, but if it is true, then my biggest feat is to stand up for myself, confront my fears and stand in alignment. Strong, honest, pure.

When I have to confront something (usually a someONE), my body has this awful reaction that I’d give anything to turn […]

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Love Actually IS All Around

Love Actually IS All Around

In December we usually remember what’s most important in our lives. It’s not beating ourselves up over a missed deadline, it’s not feeling insecure time and time again, and it’s not punishing ourselves over a mistake. What’s important is family and love and giving back. The movie “Love Actually” is one I watch every holiday season. It starts off with a bunch of video clips of people reuniting and hugging at the airport. The voiceover is Hugh Grant saying,

“Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old […]

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3 Steps You Can Take Today for Self Improvement

3 Steps You Can Take Today for Self Improvement

In a recent article I offered a self improvement exercise to help you identify who you are now, compared to who you want to be. I acted out the exercise myself and experienced a little fear, some excitement and I was a little overwhelmed at times too. Any time we sit down to really expose our true feelings it’s normal to go through a range of emotions. But also, when we are finally true to ourselves, the world opens up and opportunities arise to get us closer to our goals.

I’d like to share with you a few items that I wrote down on my lists. Under the column of “Who I am” I listed the good and the ugly: Hard worker, people pleaser, responsible, frustrated, aware, stress-prone, thoughtful, etc. Under the column “Who I want to be” I listed: Healthy, help more people make positive decisions, exercise more […]

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Facebook and It’s Awesome Power to Heal Past Hurts

Facebook and It’s Awesome Power to Heal Past Hurts

Facebook has really evolved into something great for me over the years. I remember way back in the day when Facebook was only for college students and just starting to gain popularity. Now, years later, it has become an important interface for millions. There are still those out there than “don’t get it” and that’s ok. It’s not for everyone. But, I’ve discovered that Facebook has an awesome power to heal past hurts.

Every person has that one memory of a B.F.F. that said something hurtful which resulted in the two going separate ways, or past relationships ending in a confusing way, or … fill in the blank. I was just talking to a friend a few Friday’s ago. She spoke of her best friend and how they were sooo close. Until, my friend made a single decision. The decision caused an enormous misunderstanding, the two had a blow out fight, […]

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How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times”.

 

Have you experienced a shift lately? Where you feel anxiety, a little lost, and mostly frustrated? If you have, today’s post is to tell you you’re not alone. I have clients and mentors all feeling like they are hanging on by a thread. At times, I’ve even used the analogy that it feels I’m being tossed under the ocean by a wave. At moments throughout each day I get to swim to the top and take a big breath, but then I’m smacked by another wave. It’s not to say I’ve been unhappy – not at all! […]

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The Most Important Thing You Should Be Doing In the Next 5 Minutes

The Most Important Thing You Should Be Doing In the Next 5 Minutes

Today, I invite you to take a deep breath and search inside for the insecurities and disappointments you struggle with. What do you see? If you feel overweight, that may bring up feelings of embarrassment, wonder of how you got here, maybe even feelings of disgust. If you just went through a breakup, career change or move, you may be feeling deep loss, completely alone and while people close say they understand, you feel they don’t. Maybe plain and simply you just don’t feel good enough.

I invite you now to take another deep breath and release a little bit of those feelings as you exhale. I’m not even asking for a complete release; just enough to give yourself the break you need.

I know what it’s like to feel so lonely and lost that you don’t know what to do. Sure, you put a smile on your face when in public, […]

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