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What You Are Focused On Right Now…

What You Are Focused On Right Now…

What we focus on is waaay more important than you may think. You’ve heard of the Law of Attraction which says what you think about attracts that to you. For example, if I think about wanting to pay off debt, I’ll attract money into my life so I can sort of manifest that goal to become reality.

There is a group of people that all think this is a lot of mumbo jumbo and I can see why. (I always have had the ability to really see other people’s points of view.) This group of people says, “So if I think I want a speed boat, one will just appear in my front lawn?” Well, no. That’s not what the Law of Attraction means.

So, I thought I would try to give you a new perspective by saying the Law in different terms. You’ve most likely been in a relationship that […]

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Part 4 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

Part 4 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

This is a continuation of the series on 4 key lessons I learned to help me grow into the person I am today…

The fourth lesson is I learn from everyone and everything.

Every second holds the opportunity to grow and become happier with who you are. If someone has experienced something similar to what I am going through at the time I listen intently and learn from their mistakes and their outcomes. That is why I continue to read or go to seminars, or talk to people openly about life.

I figure if I can at least learn one thing from each source it was worth my time and energy. I feel strongly that life will continue to present situations to you until you learn the lesson. Three years ago, I had taken on a LOT of responsibility. It felt like I was […]

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Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

The following was a piece I wrote at age 22, looking back on all the dark moments of my teenage life. Wishing for happiness and to just be ‘normal’ again…

I have paused, feeling rage, during many vulnerable times throughout my journey and thought, “I don’t want to grow anymore! I don’t want to learn. I just want to be at peace, and live my life.” In some moments of despair we question if we are even strong enough to survive our current tragedies. Every time I thought I was at a dead end in my life, unable to grasp onto any part of my True Self that would help me gain sanity, I would find a small break. A break that would give me the faith and courage necessary to keep moving and find the greater Truth of why life is the way it is, […]

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Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

I have done a LOT of soul work ever since I was a little girl. As dorky as it may sound, I have actually broken my 28-year old life into two stages, and I even have titles for them! The first stage was my teenage depression years titled, “From Lost to Found” and since then I have been in “No Guts No Glory” mode.

In between these two stages rests one of the most important moments of my whole life. A special pocket of time where it felt like time was slowing down; my heart and mind and soul were wide open to receiving ‘the message.’ I was at an Anthony Robbins event and eighty to a hundred people surrounded me, chanting, screaming, jumping up and down all in support of me breaking this one-inch board with my bare hand. I was one of the last and my hand was pulsing […]

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What People Are Feeling Right Now

What People Are Feeling Right Now

The chatter around Facebook has taken a turn in the past week. MANY people are starting to write about change, lost of inspirational quotes and insights about life are swirling around. More comments are being made and it seems that people, now more than ever, are reaching out to their community for support.

You may not find this as fascinating as I do, but I’m sharing it anyway. 🙂 I do like to see what people are talking about on Facebook because it does often give me insights into how I am feeling. For example, last week I was feeling that there was SO much going on, LOTS of change, LOTS of emotion and turmoil. Turns out, EVERYONE was feeling that – ok, lots of people we’ll say. This made me feel that I wasn’t isolated and alone. I realized that many were at that breaking point. This week, people […]

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New Conscious Divas Post: A Strange Form of Validation You Want to Embrace and Give Space For

New Conscious Divas Post: A Strange Form of Validation You Want to Embrace and Give Space For

Read my latest powerful growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser section of the article with a link where you can read the full article. Enjoy today’s article on “A Strange Form of Validation You Want to Embrace and Give Space For“!

…A buzz of uncertainty is flowing throughout my community, which tells me it’s happening everywhere. A young girl recently asked me if it’s possible to be pretending without knowing it. I instantly knew where this was going. To be sure, I responded with a question, “Do you mean like shouting you are happy but feeling deep down that maybe you’re not happy?” Bingo.

When reflecting on all the blessings in our lives, the opportunities, the love – the writing is on the wall… Life is good. Sometimes for what feels like no reason at all, this happiness on the […]

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What I Am SO Grateful For – Part Two

What I Am SO Grateful For – Part Two

In my previous post, “What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One” I shared my pre-Thanksgiving amazing journey through the powers of karma and intention. It was amazing! So many WONDERFUL things have happened since then. This post now transitions into what I’m grateful for in general in this time of my life, and why.

This Thanksgiving was by far the best I’ve ever had. For the first time “outsiders” weren’t welcome for our Thanksgiving. We have always opened our home to anyone that we knew that didn’t have a place to go for Thanksgiving. My mom had the idea this year that we would have a “family-only” meal. We were all a little curious about this decision and feeling even a little uneasy. When we all came together on the day, we all bowed down in gratitude for this decision. We got it.

All the members in my mom’s […]

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Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Do you get anxiety when you think about starting high school? The new faces, the new classes, the new environment?

My neighbor’s daughter is starting high school in the Fall. She shyly told me she was nervous. Boy did that bring me back…

I remember graduating from middle school happy as a clam. I had hit a real milestone in my life and felt proud. Yet, entering high school gave me the opposite feeling. I had sweaty palms, anxiety, fear – all of it.

I was going from a class size of 35 to a class of more than 350! It was a transition from a private school to a public school and I had no way to prepare for what happened.

The first day of school was exactly what you’d expect.

In fact, I have recurring dreams about it to this day! lol. It’s me always late to a class because I can’t find […]

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Snap Out of It! 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Snap Out of It! 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude”.

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice […]

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How to Survive the Loss of a Love

How to Survive the Loss of a Love

Have you heard of the book, “How to Survive the Loss of a Love” by Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., Melba Colgrove, Ph.D. & Peter McWilliams?

This very simple, yet extremely powerful, book was written over 40 years ago and I’ve read it multiple times. In fact, every time a friend or family member has experienced loss, the first thing I do is go buy this book for them.

It was a fluke how I heard about it years ago, but I’m so glad I did. This book takes you through the journey of the 3 phases of loss: Surviving, Healing, Growing.

The Introduction:

When an emotional injury takes place, the body begins a process
as natural as the healing
of a physical wound.Let the process happen.
Trust the process.
Surrender to it.

Trust that nature will do the healing.
Know that the pain will pass,
and, when it passes,
you will be stronger,
happier, more sensitive and aware.

This is a book to be […]

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