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The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

Today’s post is from ‘anonymous’ who wrote this for their relationship partner. I decided to add this in for two reasons. One, it’s important that we take time out of our busy schedules to think about why we care about the people we surround ourselves with. Two, because it’s equally important that we take time to express our feelings to others – whether family, friends or relationship partners. It can really strengthen a relationship and remind both parties why this relationship is so important. I would love to hear your thoughts after reading…

The 21 reasons why I love you and ‘just know’…

I love you because you take the time to really understand who I am.
Because I feel safer knowing you’re in my life.
Because you always show up when I need you most.

I love you because you never cease to make me smile or laugh.
Because you find ways to […]

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How to Be There for Your Teen While Also Giving Space

How to Be There for Your Teen While Also Giving Space

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Be There for Your Teen While Also Giving Space”.

You may or may not know by now that I hold a strong passion for opening communication between teens and parents. Wow oh wow did I push and pull my parents in every possible direction as a teen. “I need you” … “No, get away” … it must have been so incredibly confusing for them! But I couldn’t help it, I was an emotional roller coaster.

I was confused to the max about the pressures I felt surrounding me. Who did I want to be? How did I want to show up in the world? I constantly analyzed how others showed up and compared […]

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Are You Paying Attention?

Are You Paying Attention?

There sure is a lot out there to distract us, isn’t there? I talk to more people that feel they are barely staying above water with all they have to do, than people who feel relaxed about life. On my constant quest to understand life and make the most of it, I ponder this idea – what are we paying attention to?

I fear we are paying attention to our debts, our never-ending stack of work, our fears over the “end of the world” scares, our stresses that there is never enough time, how tired our bodies feel. It is easy to get stuck in a thought pattern like this because the reality is, we are simply overwhelmed with the changes of the world. We are learning to adapt to a new way of living. And “adapt”, we must do.

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The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

You already know exactly what I’m talking about. I don’t have to tell you what “confrontation” means.

I’ll start by admitting to you all that I think confrontation is one of the most difficult things to do, for me. It would be so easy for some people to shove the past under the rug, move on, write it off – but not for me. Some say we have a “contract” with ourselves before we come to live on this planet. A contract we must fulfill or we come back and do it again until we get it right. I don’t think I believe in all that, but if it is true, then my biggest feat is to stand up for myself, confront my fears and stand in alignment. Strong, honest, pure.

When I have to confront something (usually a someONE), my body has this awful reaction that I’d give anything to turn […]

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Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

The following was a piece I wrote at age 22, looking back on all the dark moments of my teenage life. Wishing for happiness and to just be ‘normal’ again…

I have paused, feeling rage, during many vulnerable times throughout my journey and thought, “I don’t want to grow anymore! I don’t want to learn. I just want to be at peace, and live my life.” In some moments of despair we question if we are even strong enough to survive our current tragedies. Every time I thought I was at a dead end in my life, unable to grasp onto any part of my True Self that would help me gain sanity, I would find a small break. A break that would give me the faith and courage necessary to keep moving and find the greater Truth of why life is the way it is, […]

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Your Call To Action: Help Me Influence Teens in a Positive Way

Your Call To Action: Help Me Influence Teens in a Positive Way

Thank YOU for all of your comments and feedback on this site so far! There are few things more rewarding in this world than showing up just as you were meant to, spreading messages to others who search for answers. This is exactly the purpose of this site. It is my ultimate hope we can make this a community site – an interactive site. We have an opportunity to truly create something special. AND, I ultimately want to bring Teenagers into this space. There is so much we can do to influence them in a positive way. Won’t you help me?

Ways you can help – your call to action:

Share Your Story: Whatever you feel to share about your past, present, or future desires. Stories are the easiest ways to teach and relate to one another. You can Share Your Story by clicking here now »
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What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

I’ve been awake about an hour and I’m already filled with an unmatched happiness and peace. I couldn’t do another thing until I told you what I was feeling. The past five days have completely blown me away…

To get started, I must tell you about my pre-Thanksgiving travel experience. A few weeks ago I bought my plane tickets home to Tucson, leaving Wednesday (the 24th) at 9pm and coming back Saturday. I originally got the late Wednesday flight because my aunt was coming in to town and I was going to spend the day with her and my cousin. She got caught in a nasty Utah snow storm and I found out the day before my flight she was not going to be able to travel here – the freeways would shut down.

This opened up the opportunity for me to come home a little early which I desperately craved. […]

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25 Quick Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed

25 Quick Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed

Ah, we know the signs all too well. Our bodies get warmer, a headache is triggered, our hands get stiff and we find ourselves reacting to just about anything. Stress can be caused from any of a zillion different ways.

Finding quick ways to change directions and calm down can be HUGELY beneficial for your health and happiness.

Below you will find a list of 25 quick ways to calm down when you start to feel stressed. These tips come from a variety of sources – some friends – some from me – some from doctors and writers.

When you feel stress coming on, scan this list, do 1 method, do them all! But whatever you do, try to relax – then get to the root of your stress and work it out.

Walk away from the situation you’re in (work, a fight with your partner, etc.) for just a minute. Go into […]

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New Conscious Divas Post: How to Start 2011 With a Clear Conscience and a Bang!

New Conscious Divas Post: How to Start 2011 With a Clear Conscience and a Bang!

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Start 2011 With a Clear Conscience and a Bang!”

“I love December as it is a month for serious reflection. January is great for inspiration and kicking ourselves into high gear. Somewhere in the middle of this spectrum we need to find a quiet space to clear our conscience and determine what we really want for the new year ahead. Today I hope to provide some guidance on how to do just that.

This process really must start with serious reflection if you have not already done so. I like to walk around the mall or crowded areas and get very still in my mind. I look around at the mom’s pushing their […]

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Catapult Your Personal and Business Success! Here’s How…

Catapult Your Personal and Business Success! Here’s How…

Though I’m only a budding 28 year old, I realized a breakthrough mentality in my life and just had to share it with you!

If you’re a regular reader, by now you’ve heard my story of being a completely lost and depressed teen. You know the type that ate lunches along, cried most nights in bed and felt largely friendless? I had NO CLUE why these feelings of confusion and depression overcame me, or how long they would take up residence in my life, but they sure ate away at me.

From there, with a whole lotta faith and perseverance, I discovered the tools of business success in my tool box. I was 19 and attending college when I started working with a huge national marketing company. Life started to return. The recognition and achievements at my work was all I needed to start to turn my life around. Being lonely and […]

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