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Part 1 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

Part 1 of 4: What Key Things Did I Learn to Get Me Where I Am Today

In the next 4 posts I am going to share with you 4 key lessons I learned to help me grow into the person I am today…

One, I listened to my Gut.

I’ve learned that if I trust my head and thoughts, I’ll not arrive at the destination I want. Your mind plagues you with “What If” questions. What if they don’t like me, what if I fail, what if they say no… what if I make the wrong decision. You can’t really trust too many mind-based solutions because you are merely guessing your way through the decision.

I’ve also learned that if I trust my heart only, I’ll still not arrive at the destination I want. Your heart is full to the brim with emotion and sensitivity – whether you realize it’s potential or not. Emotion will lead you astray because we all want to feel loved and good […]

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When People Don’t React the Way You’d Hoped…

When People Don’t React the Way You’d Hoped…

At least a few major times in everyone’s lives, disappointment creeps in. We have great news, hit an accomplishment, got a good result and can’t wait to share the details – always first with the person we think will be most excited or proud of us.

That person, at that one point in time, for whatever reason, ends up disappointing you. They don’t fully listen; they say “good job” but then follow immediately with something negative or pessimistic; they just don’t show up the way you hoped they would.

Immediately your bright and energetic excitement turns into a dull cloudy hurt. It has happened. It will continue to happen. Most importantly, we can try to get new perspective on the situation so the low’s aren’t quite so low.

One reason people can’t fully engage in your excitement is because they are not feeling excited in their own lives. Consider all of the stress […]

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The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

The 21 Reasons Why I Love You

Today’s post is from ‘anonymous’ who wrote this for their relationship partner. I decided to add this in for two reasons. One, it’s important that we take time out of our busy schedules to think about why we care about the people we surround ourselves with. Two, because it’s equally important that we take time to express our feelings to others – whether family, friends or relationship partners. It can really strengthen a relationship and remind both parties why this relationship is so important. I would love to hear your thoughts after reading…

The 21 reasons why I love you and ‘just know’…

I love you because you take the time to really understand who I am.
Because I feel safer knowing you’re in my life.
Because you always show up when I need you most.

I love you because you never cease to make me smile or laugh.
Because you find ways to […]

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How I Gained Work Experience, Achieved Promotions and Keep Getting Job Opportunities

How I Gained Work Experience, Achieved Promotions and Keep Getting Job Opportunities

When we are little we all have ideas about what we want to be when we grow up. Both my parents were awesome entrepreneurs. When I grew up, I just wanted to be responsible and successful like them. I do believe this gave me an advantage because I didn’t have any expectations of what I should be – I had the freedom to decide. The job market was my canvas.

I started working when I was fourteen as a dishwasher for weddings. While hundreds of guests were dressed up and dancing under the stars, I was in the crazy hot kitchen spraying down dishes and trying to walk away that night with the least amount of food pasted all over me. Not exactly fun but I didn’t hate it either. I was just starting my work journey and open for anything.

I spent the next seven or so years working in restaurants […]

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What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One

I’ve been awake about an hour and I’m already filled with an unmatched happiness and peace. I couldn’t do another thing until I told you what I was feeling. The past five days have completely blown me away…

To get started, I must tell you about my pre-Thanksgiving travel experience. A few weeks ago I bought my plane tickets home to Tucson, leaving Wednesday (the 24th) at 9pm and coming back Saturday. I originally got the late Wednesday flight because my aunt was coming in to town and I was going to spend the day with her and my cousin. She got caught in a nasty Utah snow storm and I found out the day before my flight she was not going to be able to travel here – the freeways would shut down.

This opened up the opportunity for me to come home a little early which I desperately craved. […]

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Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of a shame spiral searching Facebook on who you can chat with, scrolling your phone for that “right person” to call who will comfort you, yet no one seems to be that “right person”? You’re fidgety, frustrated and your whole body is tight. Then you tell yourself, “Well, I don’t NEED to talk about it, it would just be nice.”

If you are identifying with this, then let this be a message that cautions you. This process happens when something (or things) is brewing deep inside you. You are like a volcano about ready to blow. Tears emerge, but you are trying to be “strong” so maybe only one falls. You know you’re on dangerous grounds but you test it, tease it and think you can overcome this power brewing in you.

False. Sorry to break that thought – but deep down you already […]

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Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice when we are “up” and be proud of our accomplishments. I do not mean to start a post in such a downer way – but I do intend to finish it with positivity and motivation.

You see, lately I’ve been approached by more than a few struggling souls. They’ve […]

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What I Am SO Grateful For – Part Two

What I Am SO Grateful For – Part Two

In my previous post, “What I Am SO Grateful For – Part One” I shared my pre-Thanksgiving amazing journey through the powers of karma and intention. It was amazing! So many WONDERFUL things have happened since then. This post now transitions into what I’m grateful for in general in this time of my life, and why.

This Thanksgiving was by far the best I’ve ever had. For the first time “outsiders” weren’t welcome for our Thanksgiving. We have always opened our home to anyone that we knew that didn’t have a place to go for Thanksgiving. My mom had the idea this year that we would have a “family-only” meal. We were all a little curious about this decision and feeling even a little uneasy. When we all came together on the day, we all bowed down in gratitude for this decision. We got it.

All the members in my mom’s […]

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Part 1 of 2: The Scary, Slippery Slope of Stress and Which Outlets Can Help You Stay Healthy

Part 1 of 2: The Scary, Slippery Slope of Stress and Which Outlets Can Help You Stay Healthy

Stress is a funny little thing that we all have blinders on about. We don’t even realize all the little ways that we get stressed out everyday. Someone cuts you off in traffic, you stub your toe, you daughter throws a fit, your girlfriend breaks up with you, your tire blows out on the freeway, you’re late for work, you spill coffee on your white blouse, sitting in rush hour traffic, a client lets out their frustration on you, a kid calls you a name in school, you get humiliated in front of a group of people, your bank account is lower than you’d like, you’re late paying your taxes, your credit card is maxed out, the divorce is final, the guy you like isn’t calling you back… and those are only 16 of a billion ways you could feel a rise in your stress levels.

Ok, you say, maybe I […]

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Neale Donald Walsh and His “I Believe God Wants You to Know” Series

Neale Donald Walsh and His “I Believe God Wants You to Know” Series

Neale Donald Walsh is a very famous author and speaker worldwide. His best-seller and most well-known book, “Conversations With God” has been published in 34 languages and turned Neale into the spiritual messenger that millions have come to know. Many have said Neale and his life’s work is a giant scam to make money. A shame I’ll tell ya.

Neale is a family friend and has the classic rags to riches story. He was homeless – a movie was made about his life, maybe worth checking out sometime – and questioning life. One day he sat down with pen and paper and he says God spoke through him. Ok, that’s when I get a little iffy about it too, but I listen on – *everyone* has value and a message to share. The book, which turned into a series, asks dozens and dozens of questions and then provides the […]

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