Blog - A Conscious Choice with Teen and Parent Mentor Amber Ludwig-Vilhauer

Your Call To Action: Help Me Influence Teens in a Positive Way

Your Call To Action: Help Me Influence Teens in a Positive Way

Thank YOU for all of your comments and feedback on this site so far! There are few things more rewarding in this world than showing up just as you were meant to, spreading messages to others who search for answers. This is exactly the purpose of this site. It is my ultimate hope we can make this a community site – an interactive site. We have an opportunity to truly create something special. AND, I ultimately want to bring Teenagers into this space. There is so much we can do to influence them in a positive way. Won’t you help me?

Ways you can help – your call to action:

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Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Do you look in the mirror and have thoughts about how your hips are too big, your acne is ugly, your hair isn’t perfect, your stomach isn’t flat enough, your _________? Or do you feel not good enough to have a relationship with your crush, not good enough to achieve good grades, not good enough to _________?

Women especially have a hard time accepting themselves. When I was 22 I was given the greatest gift. I was made aware that my whole life I had been replaying this message in my mind and heart that I am not good enough. I could see so clearly how this negatively affected my relationships, school work, career, friendships and more.

ANY time you are being critical of yourself, you are reducing your chance for a happy, successful, fulfilling life. If you believe in yourself, others will believe in you. If you don’t like who you […]

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How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times

Read my latest personal growth message posted as an expert author on the Conscious Divas website. Below is a teaser of the article with a link where you can read the full post. Enjoy today’s article on “How to Lighten Your Load During Heavy Times”.

 

Have you experienced a shift lately? Where you feel anxiety, a little lost, and mostly frustrated? If you have, today’s post is to tell you you’re not alone. I have clients and mentors all feeling like they are hanging on by a thread. At times, I’ve even used the analogy that it feels I’m being tossed under the ocean by a wave. At moments throughout each day I get to swim to the top and take a big breath, but then I’m smacked by another wave. It’s not to say I’ve been unhappy – not at all! […]

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What People Are Feeling Right Now

What People Are Feeling Right Now

The chatter around Facebook has taken a turn in the past week. MANY people are starting to write about change, lost of inspirational quotes and insights about life are swirling around. More comments are being made and it seems that people, now more than ever, are reaching out to their community for support.

You may not find this as fascinating as I do, but I’m sharing it anyway. 🙂 I do like to see what people are talking about on Facebook because it does often give me insights into how I am feeling. For example, last week I was feeling that there was SO much going on, LOTS of change, LOTS of emotion and turmoil. Turns out, EVERYONE was feeling that – ok, lots of people we’ll say. This made me feel that I wasn’t isolated and alone. I realized that many were at that breaking point. This week, people […]

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The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

You already know exactly what I’m talking about. I don’t have to tell you what “confrontation” means.

I’ll start by admitting to you all that I think confrontation is one of the most difficult things to do, for me. It would be so easy for some people to shove the past under the rug, move on, write it off – but not for me. Some say we have a “contract” with ourselves before we come to live on this planet. A contract we must fulfill or we come back and do it again until we get it right. I don’t think I believe in all that, but if it is true, then my biggest feat is to stand up for myself, confront my fears and stand in alignment. Strong, honest, pure.

When I have to confront something (usually a someONE), my body has this awful reaction that I’d give anything to turn […]

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Q&A: Bad Relationships, Our Need to Feel Appreciated and How to Overcame Those Obstacles

Q&A: Bad Relationships, Our Need to Feel Appreciated and How to Overcame Those Obstacles

I received a question from a reader named Amanda. I wrote back a long response to her question but found her email address to not be a working address. So, I open this up to all of you in hopes that Amanda finds the answer she was looking for…

Amanda’s Question:
“I toppled across your website this afternoon and started reading your blogs; they are truly inspirational. I was curious.. in one of your blogs you talked about how sometimes our need to fill appreciated can keep us in bad relationships far too long. I wanted to see if you had a blog talking about your bad relationships and how you overcame those obstacles. Thanks!”

My Response:
Good morning Amanda! Thank you for the kind words – this is why I keep going and do what I do. I always said if it impacted even one person – it was all worth it. 🙂

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What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

When someone disappoints us it kind of feels like you’re standing still and not sure what to do. Anger, fear and sadness mix together. Questions start popping up all over the place. “What did I do?” “Was this my fault?” “Am I not good enough?” “Do I tell the person how I really feel?” “Should I never talk to them again?”

It is very easy to slip into the role of victim here and point your finger at them in judgment. So let that be our first example of a route you could go down. It wouldn’t be that difficult to talk about them behind their back, stew in private and write them off.

I personally believe this would catch up to you. I am the person who believes, “treat others the way you would want to be treated” – I’m extremely patient – and arguably too forgiving (if that is possible). […]

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Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

I have done a LOT of soul work ever since I was a little girl. As dorky as it may sound, I have actually broken my 28-year old life into two stages, and I even have titles for them! The first stage was my teenage depression years titled, “From Lost to Found” and since then I have been in “No Guts No Glory” mode.

In between these two stages rests one of the most important moments of my whole life. A special pocket of time where it felt like time was slowing down; my heart and mind and soul were wide open to receiving ‘the message.’ I was at an Anthony Robbins event and eighty to a hundred people surrounded me, chanting, screaming, jumping up and down all in support of me breaking this one-inch board with my bare hand. I was one of the last and my hand was pulsing […]

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Neale Donald Walsh and His “I Believe God Wants You to Know” Series

Neale Donald Walsh and His “I Believe God Wants You to Know” Series

Neale Donald Walsh is a very famous author and speaker worldwide. His best-seller and most well-known book, “Conversations With God” has been published in 34 languages and turned Neale into the spiritual messenger that millions have come to know. Many have said Neale and his life’s work is a giant scam to make money. A shame I’ll tell ya.

Neale is a family friend and has the classic rags to riches story. He was homeless – a movie was made about his life, maybe worth checking out sometime – and questioning life. One day he sat down with pen and paper and he says God spoke through him. Ok, that’s when I get a little iffy about it too, but I listen on – *everyone* has value and a message to share. The book, which turned into a series, asks dozens and dozens of questions and then provides the […]

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Love Actually IS All Around

Love Actually IS All Around

In December we usually remember what’s most important in our lives. It’s not beating ourselves up over a missed deadline, it’s not feeling insecure time and time again, and it’s not punishing ourselves over a mistake. What’s important is family and love and giving back. The movie “Love Actually” is one I watch every holiday season. It starts off with a bunch of video clips of people reuniting and hugging at the airport. The voiceover is Hugh Grant saying,

“Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old […]

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