Today, I invite you to take a deep breath and search inside for the insecurities and disappointments you struggle with. What do you see? If you feel overweight, that may bring up feelings of embarrassment, wonder of how you got here, maybe even feelings of disgust. If you just went through a breakup, career change or move, you may be feeling deep loss, completely alone and while people close say they understand, you feel they don’t. Maybe plain and simply you just don’t feel good enough.
I invite you now to take another deep breath and release a little bit of those feelings as you exhale. I’m not even asking for a complete release; just enough to give yourself the break you need.
I know what it’s like to feel so lonely and lost that you don’t know what to do. Sure, you put a smile on your face when in public, you respond with “Great!” when asked how you are – but sometimes, we put on a cover because we don’t feel ready to talk about how we really feel – and that is ok.
Somewhere along the way, it will be time to pick yourself back up, dust off, and try once more. Take all the time you need to get to this point, but when you are ready, let’s set a foundation to make you strong and whole – the way you deserve to live your life.
So how does one get from lost to found? I won’t lie to you and say it’s a 3-step easy process. When we are lost or hurting, we become very vulnerable. You’ll date a guy thinking you’re ready when you’re not, and inevitably, hurt follows. You’ll start slipping back into old habits that got you lost in the first place. I am here to show you another way.
Before you move on from this article, and zip off to another site or meeting or take another call, or just get busy – I invite you to take a few minutes for you and do a very short but powerful first step. Just humor me. Take out a blank sheet of paper and draw a line right down the middle. On the top of the left column I want you to write in all caps “WHO I AM”. Take one full minute and write a list of qualities that make up who you are. Maybe you write, “funny, trustworthy, overweight, sad, good worker, in a relationship” – but make that list as long as you can in just one minute. Here’s the catch: You must be honest with yourself in this moment. Don’t fluff it up – be real with yourself. If you can’t be real with you, you won’t be able to be real with anyone close to you.
After that minute is up, I want you to go to the top of the right column and write “WHO I WANT TO BE”. Ah, trickier. You can do this – have a little confidence. Now, take one more minute – or more if you want – and make a list of who you really want to be in this world. How do you want to show up for your kids, your friends, co-workers – most importantly, you.
Compare those columns. You may feel saddened or a little scared even. Let those feelings pass because it’s time to start working on the person you want to be. I am here to tell you that you can be anyone you want to be. You CAN do anything you want to do. You may not know *how*, but we’ll get to that. For now, I just want you to be at peace, knowing that you can be that person you’ve written out in the right column. We will work step by step to get you there. There’s no need to be hard on yourself or doubt your capabilities. That doesn’t serve you anymore.
During our next article, I will lay out steps to help you work toward that better you you’re creating. Steps I know you can achieve – workable steps to implement and start your new Journey.
I will end today with one more invitation. An invitation I know you can do and after, will feel brave and wonderful about. One of the greatest ways I rescued myself was through the gift of sharing. I invite you now to leave a comment and tell me 5 of the items you listed in your right column of who you want to be. Sign anonymous if you want – either way, we won’t judge. You have an opportunity to heal you in this moment, set a trail for others to follow, and inspire others to take action. I can’t do this alone; I need your help. Gain the courage and share who you want to be with us…
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