Choose Happiness.

You are invited and welcomed to participate in the inspiration and expression this site provokes. I have spent my life watching people, learning from mistakes and growing “up”. I was raised in a very supportive and loving family environment – I couldn’t have asked for anything more! But somewhere along the way, when I entered middle school, I traveled down a dark and lonely road. I pushed everyone away and was lost for about 5 years – not knowing who I was or what I was supposed to do.

Amber VilhauerThen, piece by piece, step by step, I started making better decisions and rebuilding my identity. I graduated high school with honors (actually receiving an award from the school as the “Most Improved” student), moved on to college and most importantly, found myself. I don’t regret or feel badly about a single moment in my past because it is solely responsible for where I am today.

This site is for all of you out there who stumble into doubt, wonder what your purpose is, or just need a place to escape and get answers. I’ve been there, and I’m here for you now.

xoxo, Amber

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What Are Your Defense Mechanisms?

What Are Your Defense Mechanisms?

Defense mechanism behaviors that have worked for you in the past
may not fit you anymore and need to change.

We all have defense mechanisms that we’ve developed over time, often without being aware of it. In times of trouble, the behaviors that have worked to get us past challenges with the least amount of pain are the ones that we repeat; even when part of us knows they no longer work. Such behavior is a natural response from our mental and physical aspects. But because we are spiritual beings as well, we have the ability to rise above habits and patterns to see the truth that lay beyond. And from that moment on, we can make choices that allow us to work directly from that place of truth within us.

Most of our defense mechanisms were developed in childhood; from the moment that we realized crying would get us the attention […]

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