Choose Happiness.

You are invited and welcomed to participate in the inspiration and expression this site provokes. I have spent my life watching people, learning from mistakes and growing “up”. I was raised in a very supportive and loving family environment – I couldn’t have asked for anything more! But somewhere along the way, when I entered middle school, I traveled down a dark and lonely road. I pushed everyone away and was lost for about 5 years – not knowing who I was or what I was supposed to do.

Amber VilhauerThen, piece by piece, step by step, I started making better decisions and rebuilding my identity. I graduated high school with honors (actually receiving an award from the school as the “Most Improved” student), moved on to college and most importantly, found myself. I don’t regret or feel badly about a single moment in my past because it is solely responsible for where I am today.

This site is for all of you out there who stumble into doubt, wonder what your purpose is, or just need a place to escape and get answers. I’ve been there, and I’m here for you now.

xoxo, Amber

Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Do you look in the mirror and have thoughts about how your hips are too big, your acne is ugly, your hair isn’t perfect, your stomach isn’t flat enough, your _________? Or do you feel not good enough to have a relationship with your crush, not good enough to achieve good grades, not good enough to _________?

Women especially have a hard time accepting themselves. When I was 22 I was given the greatest gift. I was made aware that my whole life I had been replaying this message in my mind and heart that I am not good enough. I could see so clearly how this negatively affected my relationships, school work, career, friendships and more.

ANY time you are being critical of yourself, you are reducing your chance for a happy, successful, fulfilling life. If you believe in yourself, others will believe in you. If you don’t like who you […]