Tagged: Feeling Not Good Enough

What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

When someone disappoints us it kind of feels like you’re standing still and not sure what to do. Anger, fear and sadness mix together. Questions start popping up all over the place. “What did I do?” “Was this my fault?” “Am I not good enough?” “Do I tell the person how I really feel?” “Should I never talk to them again?”

It is very easy to slip into the role of victim here and point your finger at them in judgment. So let that be our first example of a route you could go down. It wouldn’t be that difficult to talk about them behind their back, stew in private and write them off.

I personally believe this would catch up to you. I am the person who believes, “treat others the way you would want to be treated” – I’m extremely patient – and arguably too forgiving (if that is possible). […]

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Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Do you look in the mirror and have thoughts about how your hips are too big, your acne is ugly, your hair isn’t perfect, your stomach isn’t flat enough, your _________? Or do you feel not good enough to have a relationship with your crush, not good enough to achieve good grades, not good enough to _________?

Women especially have a hard time accepting themselves. When I was 22 I was given the greatest gift. I was made aware that my whole life I had been replaying this message in my mind and heart that I am not good enough. I could see so clearly how this negatively affected my relationships, school work, career, friendships and more.

ANY time you are being critical of yourself, you are reducing your chance for a happy, successful, fulfilling life. If you believe in yourself, others will believe in you. If you don’t like who you […]

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Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

Do You Feel ‘Good Enough’? How a Shift in Perspective Can Change Your World for the Better

I have done a LOT of soul work ever since I was a little girl. As dorky as it may sound, I have actually broken my 28-year old life into two stages, and I even have titles for them! The first stage was my teenage depression years titled, “From Lost to Found” and since then I have been in “No Guts No Glory” mode.

In between these two stages rests one of the most important moments of my whole life. A special pocket of time where it felt like time was slowing down; my heart and mind and soul were wide open to receiving ‘the message.’ I was at an Anthony Robbins event and eighty to a hundred people surrounded me, chanting, screaming, jumping up and down all in support of me breaking this one-inch board with my bare hand. I was one of the last and my hand was pulsing […]

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Why Helping to Mentor Teens is Such a Priority to Me

Why Helping to Mentor Teens is Such a Priority to Me

Elementary school, middle school and high school can be SO rough on a kid. My first heartbreak was in 3rd grade. 3rd grade!! My best friend of three years chose a new girl to hang out with over me. With not even 10 years on this planet, a little girl felt “not good enough” for the first time. These moments in time have a HUGE impact on all people involved, yet is still continues to happen, and for generations to come.

Watch this powerful 3minute short video below that I was fortunate enough to see thanks to a dear friend, Julia King:

Looks are given, nasty words said, harsh actions made – all day, every day, all across the nation. Teenage kids don’t know a better way than this. There’s conflict in their individual worlds and these young adults are not taught how to properly handle these massive waves of intense emotions. […]

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From Alone, to Asking for Help, to Growth

From Alone, to Asking for Help, to Growth

I have found people rarely admit they need help even when they are desperate for it. There have been times in my life that I felt so terrified of life and its outcomes. One of my greatest outlets in high school was a journal. I wrote day after day trying to release all of the loneliness, hurt, anger and depression I felt.

August 3rd, 2000 – “My heart is heavy and the doors are closed. My my mind remains empty of thought. I have been tangled in the veins of reputation. Why are these veins choking me so tightly? Who will give me the answers I need to heal my soul of this darkness? I have been looking for people to be here in my time of pain, but no one has responded.”

After looking back on all of the suffering that now seems unfamiliar, […]

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