Topic: What is Your Outlet?

25 Quick Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed

25 Quick Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed

Ah, we know the signs all too well. Our bodies get warmer, a headache is triggered, our hands get stiff and we find ourselves reacting to just about anything. Stress can be caused from any of a zillion different ways.

Finding quick ways to change directions and calm down can be HUGELY beneficial for your health and happiness.

Below you will find a list of 25 quick ways to calm down when you start to feel stressed. These tips come from a variety of sources – some friends – some from me – some from doctors and writers.

When you feel stress coming on, scan this list, do 1 method, do them all! But whatever you do, try to relax – then get to the root of your stress and work it out.

Walk away from the situation you’re in (work, a fight with your partner, etc.) for just a minute. Go into […]

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Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Classic: “I don’t need to talk about it…”

Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of a shame spiral searching Facebook on who you can chat with, scrolling your phone for that “right person” to call who will comfort you, yet no one seems to be that “right person”? You’re fidgety, frustrated and your whole body is tight. Then you tell yourself, “Well, I don’t NEED to talk about it, it would just be nice.”

If you are identifying with this, then let this be a message that cautions you. This process happens when something (or things) is brewing deep inside you. You are like a volcano about ready to blow. Tears emerge, but you are trying to be “strong” so maybe only one falls. You know you’re on dangerous grounds but you test it, tease it and think you can overcome this power brewing in you.

False. Sorry to break that thought – but deep down you already […]

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Q&A: I Want to Start Writing and Helping Others, How and Where Do I Start?

Q&A: I Want to Start Writing and Helping Others, How and Where Do I Start?

I received a question from a reader who was interested in writing. She saw this site and what I am trying to accomplish through my writing. She wanted to know what she could do to get involved, start her own thing, and help others. I know many of you out there are in a similar boat – with that stirring inside. I asked her permission to share snippets of our back-and-forth conversation because I think it would be valuable for you to read.

Question: I want to start writing but I don’t know what to do or how to start. Help?

My answer:
Hey girl – Writing is the BEST!! Let’s first explore what you would want.

There are many options that can get you feeling like your really doing something great and helping people, or just even provide a quick side project to get started.

1. My first recommendation is to start a blog. […]

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How I Stay Healthy + Small Exercises at Home To Feel Better About Yourself

How I Stay Healthy + Small Exercises at Home To Feel Better About Yourself

Do you ever feel sluggish or just not quite yourself? Maybe it’s been weeks or months (or years?) since your last serious workout? Maybe it’s time for a change?

We all get to a point eventually where we internally say, “Enough!!!” Or, your body will say “Enough!” and you won’t have a choice but to make your health a priority.

Below I hate a list of things I do to stay healthy plus a few ideas for exercises you can do at home to feel better about yourself.

How I Stay Healthy

 

I made the choice to eat well. I eat a big salad about four times a week, in addition to my regular sized dinner. This is like a super salad of organic veggies and it tastes amazing. I’ll add in lots of lettuce (greens are essential to health!), shredded carrots, avocado, celery, dried cranberries, snow peas, orange bell pepper, broccoli and cucumber. […]

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Part 2 of 2: The Scary, Slippery Slope of Stress and Which Outlets Can Help You Stay Healthy

Part 2 of 2: The Scary, Slippery Slope of Stress and Which Outlets Can Help You Stay Healthy

On our last post I revealed the 3 major times in my life that stress caused major health problems. I did this only with hopes that you could recognize patterns of stress in your own life. Today I want to share with you

Looking at the root of your stress
Healthy outlets for reducing or eliminating stress
Looking ahead

 

Looking at the root of your stress

My dad was a very wise man when he told me, “I like to go straight to the source and fix the issue there instead of covering up the pain”. Ok, he was telling me this one day when I was complaining about my wrist hurting from clicking my mouse a million times that day. I was a little worried about early signs of carpel tunnel which he had. I was saying, “what should I take for this pain to get the swelling to go down?”

His point being, instead […]

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Part 1 of 2: The Scary, Slippery Slope of Stress and Which Outlets Can Help You Stay Healthy

Part 1 of 2: The Scary, Slippery Slope of Stress and Which Outlets Can Help You Stay Healthy

Stress is a funny little thing that we all have blinders on about. We don’t even realize all the little ways that we get stressed out everyday. Someone cuts you off in traffic, you stub your toe, you daughter throws a fit, your girlfriend breaks up with you, your tire blows out on the freeway, you’re late for work, you spill coffee on your white blouse, sitting in rush hour traffic, a client lets out their frustration on you, a kid calls you a name in school, you get humiliated in front of a group of people, your bank account is lower than you’d like, you’re late paying your taxes, your credit card is maxed out, the divorce is final, the guy you like isn’t calling you back… and those are only 16 of a billion ways you could feel a rise in your stress levels.

Ok, you say, maybe I […]

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Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

Depressed? Angry at the World? It’s Natural.

The following was a piece I wrote at age 22, looking back on all the dark moments of my teenage life. Wishing for happiness and to just be ‘normal’ again…

I have paused, feeling rage, during many vulnerable times throughout my journey and thought, “I don’t want to grow anymore! I don’t want to learn. I just want to be at peace, and live my life.” In some moments of despair we question if we are even strong enough to survive our current tragedies. Every time I thought I was at a dead end in my life, unable to grasp onto any part of my True Self that would help me gain sanity, I would find a small break. A break that would give me the faith and courage necessary to keep moving and find the greater Truth of why life is the way it is, […]

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From Alone, to Asking for Help, to Growth

From Alone, to Asking for Help, to Growth

I have found people rarely admit they need help even when they are desperate for it. There have been times in my life that I felt so terrified of life and its outcomes. One of my greatest outlets in high school was a journal. I wrote day after day trying to release all of the loneliness, hurt, anger and depression I felt.

August 3rd, 2000 – “My heart is heavy and the doors are closed. My my mind remains empty of thought. I have been tangled in the veins of reputation. Why are these veins choking me so tightly? Who will give me the answers I need to heal my soul of this darkness? I have been looking for people to be here in my time of pain, but no one has responded.”

After looking back on all of the suffering that now seems unfamiliar, […]

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