Author Archives: Amber Ludwig

A Daughter’s Story to Help You Prepare

A Daughter’s Story to Help You Prepare

I am the youngest of 4 children and the only girl. My brothers are 5, 10 and 13 years older than me. When I was 7 years old my parents divorced. My mom moved the youngest 3 of us to Manchester, MO where she had gotten a teaching position in the Parkway School district. My oldest brother stayed in ARK.

Because of our age spread I spent the most time living with Mom. Even after I married, my husband and I lived near her.
When she began suffering from dementia it seemed natural for me to be her main care giver. As time and her disease progressed, I began doing more and more for her, starting with paying bills which she was not very good at! I remember she had a gasoline credit card with $60 on it and she was paying the minimum every month!

By fall of 2007 I was pretty […]

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25 Quick Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed

25 Quick Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed

Ah, we know the signs all too well. Our bodies get warmer, a headache is triggered, our hands get stiff and we find ourselves reacting to just about anything. Stress can be caused from any of a zillion different ways.

Finding quick ways to change directions and calm down can be HUGELY beneficial for your health and happiness.

Below you will find a list of 25 quick ways to calm down when you start to feel stressed. These tips come from a variety of sources – some friends – some from me – some from doctors and writers.

When you feel stress coming on, scan this list, do 1 method, do them all! But whatever you do, try to relax – then get to the root of your stress and work it out.

Walk away from the situation you’re in (work, a fight with your partner, etc.) for just a minute. Go into […]

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The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

The Life-Changing Powers of Confrontation

You already know exactly what I’m talking about. I don’t have to tell you what “confrontation” means.

I’ll start by admitting to you all that I think confrontation is one of the most difficult things to do, for me. It would be so easy for some people to shove the past under the rug, move on, write it off – but not for me. Some say we have a “contract” with ourselves before we come to live on this planet. A contract we must fulfill or we come back and do it again until we get it right. I don’t think I believe in all that, but if it is true, then my biggest feat is to stand up for myself, confront my fears and stand in alignment. Strong, honest, pure.

When I have to confront something (usually a someONE), my body has this awful reaction that I’d give anything to turn […]

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Will I Ever Be Happy?

Will I Ever Be Happy?

Yesterday I was holding a coaching call with an amazing client. The purpose of the call was to strategize on how to build her business online, but somewhere, the conversation took a turn.

At one point in our call, she expressed a fear that she might never be happy all because someone she looked up to told her so years ago. That stuck with me and I decided to make a Facebook post to inquire what advice our followers would give this woman.

The response was amazing and full of fantastic insight. Today, I am pasting all of their responses for you to learn from:

she can always choose to go back to that moment and re-play those words to: ‘I will always be happy, it is my choice’, she can then practice that as a daily affirmation… when you believe you have the choice (really believe it at your core) […]

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The Danger of Keeping a Secret that You Feel You Should Tell Someone About

The Danger of Keeping a Secret that You Feel You Should Tell Someone About

When I was 16 I sat in a red convertible on Valentine’s Day with my friend. We were waiting for our boyfriends to come to the parking lot and meet us where we would then drive to a nice Italian restaurant for dinner.

I think about this moment in time regularly. If the boys had come down just minutes earlier maybe I could have missed her secret altogether. We all would have been better off I think.

Instead, I was alone with her. The moment was very real – and scary. She told me she had slept with my other friend’s long-time boyfriend and loved him. Once she was done with her confession, which she seemed oddly quite proud of, she looked at me with such intensity that the rest of the world was blocked out for a moment. She told me to take her secret to the grave and never tell […]

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Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Facing Your Fear of Starting High School (and Beyond)

Do you get anxiety when you think about starting high school? The new faces, the new classes, the new environment?

My neighbor’s daughter is starting high school in the Fall. She shyly told me she was nervous. Boy did that bring me back…

I remember graduating from middle school happy as a clam. I had hit a real milestone in my life and felt proud. Yet, entering high school gave me the opposite feeling. I had sweaty palms, anxiety, fear – all of it.

I was going from a class size of 35 to a class of more than 350! It was a transition from a private school to a public school and I had no way to prepare for what happened.

The first day of school was exactly what you’d expect.

In fact, I have recurring dreams about it to this day! lol. It’s me always late to a class because I can’t find […]

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What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

What To Do When Someone Disappoints You

When someone disappoints us it kind of feels like you’re standing still and not sure what to do. Anger, fear and sadness mix together. Questions start popping up all over the place. “What did I do?” “Was this my fault?” “Am I not good enough?” “Do I tell the person how I really feel?” “Should I never talk to them again?”

It is very easy to slip into the role of victim here and point your finger at them in judgment. So let that be our first example of a route you could go down. It wouldn’t be that difficult to talk about them behind their back, stew in private and write them off.

I personally believe this would catch up to you. I am the person who believes, “treat others the way you would want to be treated” – I’m extremely patient – and arguably too forgiving (if that is possible). […]

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Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Being Critical of Yourself Will Get You Nowhere

Do you look in the mirror and have thoughts about how your hips are too big, your acne is ugly, your hair isn’t perfect, your stomach isn’t flat enough, your _________? Or do you feel not good enough to have a relationship with your crush, not good enough to achieve good grades, not good enough to _________?

Women especially have a hard time accepting themselves. When I was 22 I was given the greatest gift. I was made aware that my whole life I had been replaying this message in my mind and heart that I am not good enough. I could see so clearly how this negatively affected my relationships, school work, career, friendships and more.

ANY time you are being critical of yourself, you are reducing your chance for a happy, successful, fulfilling life. If you believe in yourself, others will believe in you. If you don’t like who you […]

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The Grass is Not Greener on the Other Side

The Grass is Not Greener on the Other Side

Have you ever looked at someone you admire and think about how easy they must have it or how much you wish you could experience what they experience?

“The Grass is Greener on the Other Side” concept has been around for a long time and expresses our lack of personal fulfillment and distraction in always looking at what others have, thinking it must be easier or better. That couldn’t be more false.

The beautiful, smart, perfectly capable young girl looks at the popular crowd and feels “not good enough.” New business owners always look at established business owners and dream of what it must be like to have fame and plenty of money or clients.

The madness has to stop. I’ve met many “established business owners” who “appear” to have a good income, but are truly just getting by. I was in the popular crowd for a short while and they were largely […]

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Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

Get Help Snapping Out Of It: 3 Action Steps to a Better Attitude

“I’m negative more and more lately… I cry because I don’t know what else to do… I can’t seem to snap out of it… I’m not happy (though I know I have reason to be)… I’m so disappointed in myself that I can’t seem to find motivation to fix how I feel… I reach out and tell people how I feel but nothing changes – if anything, I just feel worse…”

Sound familiar? If not, congratulations, you’re in a better place than most people I’ve been talking with recently. And I am sincere in wishing you congratulations – we must take notice when we are “up” and be proud of our accomplishments. I do not mean to start a post in such a downer way – but I do intend to finish it with positivity and motivation.

You see, lately I’ve been approached by more than a few struggling souls. They’ve […]

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